- I’m still afraid to ask questions.
- I’m still afraid of the answers.
- I’m still afraid to ask for a sign, or for what I want because I’m afraid of getting a “no”.
- I need to start asking.
- I want to start asking.
- I don’t want to be afraid.
- I don’t want to automatically assume rejection.
- I want to live in the balance of humbleness and believing the best because I know I deserve the best.
Sometimes we cannot see what is missing until we notice and name what is present. Many people see this as complaining and bad for your health. I wonder how acknowledging what is can be bad? Perhaps this exercise does not work for everyone. That’s ok because I believe everyone should find what works for them, but for the majority to teach only focusing on the positive dismisses half of our existence and the system we live in. I don’t believe ignoring the truth of our existence is helpful. I think people try to sweep it under the rug because it brings a lot of heavy emotions with it. We have been conditioned to associate shame, blame, and guilt with everything that is less than perfection. Will humans always be imperfect? If we continue living in denial and blame, yes. But maybe, if we accept the whole picture for what they are – factors in an equation – we can stop committing slow suicide and start living a more peaceful and loving existence like Jesus, Buddha, Mother Theresa, etc. I wonder if this concept is what the triple goddesses represent – acceptance of past, present and future self?
- I am strong.
- I fight for myself.
- I have a strong backbone.
- I stand up for myself.
- I have strong boundaries.
- I choose what I let into my life.
- I release things when it is time to let them go.
- And so it is, so it was, and so it shall ever be.
Positive self-talk is going to be very important on your healing journey. But it won’t be everything or the only way to move forward. Acceptance of what is, is the foundation we build upon. Acceptance is necessary; otherwise, the affirmations and positive self-talk may sound like a lie for much longer than is necessary. We have believed the lies of shame, blame, and guilt for so long that stepping into the truth of love, strength, and boundaries feels wrong for a long time. If we are unable to accept that the old way of life wasn’t actually the best way for us to live than our brains and hearts will continue to reject the new way. The journey to healing is difficult enough, we don’t need to make it harder on ourselves by denying the part of our lives that we are attempting to leave behind and change.
Have you found a way to implement this in your life in a way that works for you? What is it?